Little sex in dating relationships
“Say someone wants to take you home—that is an awkward f-cking conversation,” Dixon says.
“At what point do you let them know that one leg is going to be coming off?
In high school, Dixon wore her prosthetic leg under jeans every day to fit in, but it wasn’t until she was 15, and began competing in Paralympic competitions—where everyone was contending with some type of challenge—that she felt comfortable getting her flirt on.
Still, that confidence didn’t translate to her day-to-day life outside the pool.
“People assumed I was very confident in my body, traipsing around in a bathing suit,” says Dixon.
“But that’s very different from being considered a sexual being by someone you’re attracted to.” For years, Dixon was afraid that potential partners would be disgusted by her body. I just didn’t think anyone would want to have sex with me,” she says.
The challenges of dating with a disability don’t begin and end in the bedroom—they start with education, move to dating and accessible spaces and encompass sexual preferences that may change as your disability does.
In the ad, Dixon, then 26, exudes confidence and defiance in a black one-piece suit: her eyebrow is cocked, her arms are crossed, and her biceps look cut as she poses next to a slogan that reads, “She doesn’t want your sympathy.But her opponents might.” Dixon stands tall and elegant against the stark white backdrop, her left leg muscular and shapely.Her right leg is missing, because she was born a congenital amputee.In an episode of has featured characters with disabilities that range from a spinal cord injury to an amputated hand to dwarfism.
And in the fashion world, Jillian Mercado, a model with muscular dystrophy who uses an electric wheelchair, has appeared in campaigns for Diesel and Beyoncé.
“A little bit late to start figuring out how to have an orgasm, but whatever,” she jokes.