Getting out there dating
I have several good friends who have been hurt in relationships ( who hasn’t?! The sad thing to me is their reluctance to get back out there, open their hearts one more time to see if they can meet someone new.They are in self-protection mode, living life in their comfortable little boxes and I just want to shake them (gently, of course) and say, “Don’t be so afraid! Go out there and if you get hurt, pick yourself up and try again.” Of course it’s not that simple … We are all different and some of us deal with breakups better than others, I realize.Remember you don’t need to do anything you don’t feel ready for.It can be confusing knowing when we’re ‘ready’ to start dating again.After a string of seemingly endless bad dates, it’s only natural to want to take a break from the romance scene and just chill on your own for a while. If that thought gives you a twinge of some sort, or reminds you that you haven’t put away your laundry for three weeks or that you’re still very hung up on your ex, maybe there are a couple things you could work on. If every single guy you meet seems great until you realize he’s totally obsessive and bizarre, think about why you keep drawing that type. And no, just looking at someone is not considered flirting. If you’re not getting asked out on second dates after what you think to be a good first ones, is it possible that you’re being a little needy/standoffish/confusing/defensive/friend vibe? Kate Ferguson Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres.You get tired of going out with people and making an effort, and the guys are so lame it practically defies logic. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce.It takes courage to give things a go again, especially if you’ve had bad relationship experiences in the past.
* You will make all of the well-meaning family members and friends (who are likely encouraging you to date) very happy!
* You are being a courageous individual by putting yourself out there – that alone is worth it.