European friends dating
Here’s a guide to take you through dating in Europe.
To gather real accounts of the European dating scene, we asked around 500 (mostly, but not exclusively, heterosexual) expats living in Belgium, France, Germany, the Netherlands, Spain, and Switzerland a series of personal questions about themselves, their relationships, and their sex lives.
In many English-speaking countries, the kiss just doesn’t have the same significance it does elsewhere.
For example, in the UK, a woman might kiss one or more men when she’s out in a club or bar (or vice versa), but it wouldn’t necessarily mean anything or lead to a relationship of any kind. In Europe, once a man gets your number, he will most likely call straight away rather than wait a few days.
Flip-flops, shorts, or scruffy clothes in general tend not to make a good impression in fashion-conscious European cities. In France, a man may be late, but don’t take it personally; French men are notoriously bad timekeepers.
In Germany and Switzerland, however, punctuality is valuable; if one of you rolls up late, your date will be off to a bad start.
But knowing some of the cultural differences – who makes the first move, kissing on a first date, how soon to call after a date – may help you avoid awkward situations, or at least stop you from getting hurt or hurting someone else unintentionally.
In Europe, getting to know someone romantically is fairly laid back.
If you like each other, you’ll probably find a way to make it work, regardless of any cultural variations.
In the Netherlands, you might take a walk or go on a bike ride.
Couples in Germany don’t start with formal dating either and it’s only after a series of informal meetings – walks, dinner, cinema, theater – that they might start being seen as a couple.
French and Spanish men may seem a little over the top, showering a woman with compliments. It doesn’t mean he’s (necessarily) a creep, as paying a compliment is a form of acknowledgement rather than flattery in those countries.
In places like the Netherlands and Germany, people can be very direct in the way they speak (rather than being over polite and saying things to be nice that they don’t mean to avoid hurting someone’s feelings – as is often the way in the United Kingdom, for example). You shouldn’t always take to heart what’s said to you. In the UK, drinking a vast amount of alcohol can be central in beginning a sexual relationship with someone.The hints that might work back home might not work in France.