Dating someone older than your parents
“Sometimes I definitely feel old, like when my girlfriend says, ‘Who’s Fiona Apple?
’ And for queer people specifically, the difference in dating people of different generations is huge, because we’ve had drastically different experiences of growing up.
Personally, the times I’ve dated guys six or so years younger than me, I worried at points that I was checking some “older woman” box for them. While it was an ego boner to be desired by someone with eerily smooth skin who wanted to fuck nine times a day, it also shined a light on my own stupid, petty insecurities.
Like the time I stalked one Younger Guy’s Instagram, obsessing over whether the girls in his photos looked younger than me. But if you can get over your insecurities, I think there’s something to be gained from dating people of different ages—even if the relationships don’t last “forever.” When you’re the younger person in the couple, you get to soak up all your partner’s earned wisdom about life and sex, and it’s nice to feel cared for in that way.
And yet, it’s not an accident that the teacher is a sexual archetype: Power, and the transmission of knowledge, are inherently erotic.
But there’s also an undeniable eroticism to youth (duh), hence why the schoolgirl/boy gets its own chapter in the book of pervy cliches.
And then maybe, eventually, you’ll be able to pay it forward and be the teacher, which is a dynamic that feels simultaneously perverse and generous (a good combo).
Like for example, it’s been kinda thrilling to be able to say, “Oh, you’ve never had a girl finger your butt before?
If you’re in your 50s, you remember all your friends dying of AIDS.He controlled the relationship, at least superficially. We also had different ideas of what qualifies as fun. so we could have the first pick of strawberries at the farmers’ market. But in hindsight, I think we might have just been incompatible.