Dating for social inepts
But that doesn’t mean directly telling you to “just stop it” is gonna fix it.
It’s like telling a fat person to “just put down the fork dummy.” Without giving them any advice about overcoming an emotional addiction to eating, changing old habits or good nutrition.
Chances are, they spend hours a day talking to people.
When you spend a lot of time talking to people, you start to develop of what you should say next. Their mouths based on the feelings they have in their body.
If a guitar isn’t tuned properly, then the guitar player can try all he wants to hit the right strings, but what actually comes out will always sound strange and weird. Does it ever feel like you are trying hard to say the right thing but what you are saying is “off”? Or you make a comment that just doesn’t fit into the conversation so people ignore it. The best way to stop being weird is to push through the weirdness until you aren’t weird any more.
This is why it’s so important to learn practical techniques for lowering your social anxiety when around people.By the way, even if you score a perfect 10/10, please don’t dig a hole in the ground to live in yet!