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I've been dating a man for close to 5 months and he is recently divorced and has 3 kids.
I'm really very happy and it seems like everything is going in the right direction for us. Personally, I have found this website very helpful because it helped me easily get anonymous feedback from friends about my relationship. I'm head over heels, but recently I've wondered myself if I am getting what I need from this relationship.
i don't hate them, i just don't like the way my boyfriend reacts every time we get get to argue about that (i never start any argument, he always talk harsh whenever these kids are involved). you don't need to ask for your boyfriend's permission coz once the kid loved you, he/she will find a way to be friends with you.
I hate how he become too defensive about it even if he told me that he was just scared to have the same experience like what happened to him and his second wife ( they divorced because they kept on fussing over the same thing). Your boyfriend will fall more deeply in love once he sees how compatible you are to his children. I don't think you're wrong in feeling that way, but maybe you just don't really understand his point of view.
In my opinion only, it MAY be that he is just not comfortable enough with your relationship yet to involve his kids heavily. Try to be very understanding and have a long talk with him to express your concerns. I have spent time (dinner...3 times) with the 15 yr old daughter and met the 10 yr old son.
Also, depending upon the situation with his ex, he may have concerns that she may not agree with his choices and try to make it more difficult for him to see his kids. He and their mother have been divorced for 3 1/2 years.
i don't want us to end up like that coz i love him so much. going back to your problem, i think you are in a better situation. Not knowing him or you, I'm only speaking from personal experience.
Once the kids and I met (about 6 months into our relationship) we hit it off, and it's been great. But it always seemed like I was trying to get attention from him.We live together, and we have the kiddos half of the time. Maybe he's worried about how you'll feel about the kids, or vice-versa. I was getting over an abusive relationship and my mom passing away. He was always busy with his kids, he ignored our son to be with his other kids. His family never accepted me, because they were so close to his ex wife. i know every situation differs..the fact remains the same..has priorities other than you. I think sometimes women settle because we dont think for some reason we arent going to get anything better, past hurts low self esteem etc.It is hard to think about being 2nd, but, if I had kids, they'd come first no matter what, so I love him all the more for getting his priorities straight. Kids are kids, but not forever, and they grow up fast, so give it time, and hopefully it'll work out for the best. I think now at the time I was vulnarable and lonely. Then he had another kid with some girl that he ahd a one night stand with. His baby mamas were terrible to me, always trying to start stuff to much drama I felt like I was on a continuous episode of Jerry Springer. I just want to say it may be great now, but hows it going to be 4 years from now. I wish I could say I had had my husbands first kid not his fourth. Mush as I wanted to accept all his flaws, he was so adamant to compromise anything. now I am very happy with my new man, very responsible, no exwife, no kids. Its the notion well I caught an ok fish but do I really want to put the effort in throwing it back so I can fish for something better. If you love someone but you arent sure then its not love Ive had to learn this.I am trying to be patient as he's asked me to do so.
I guess I just worry that this will be yet another relationship that just hurts in the end and was a waste of time. I've waited with marriage until I found someone I was really in love with. His two beautiful daughters I've come to love as my own. You might be happy now, but it's NOT worth the possible heartache. Hi Troe -I just stumbled upon this website looking for advice on my relationship. It was love at first sight and we have been head over heels in love ever since. He usually has them on the weekends and some weeknights and I am never asked to join.
What's hard is that I know my parents aren't happy with my situation and they feel like I should find somebody who 1) isn't divorced and 2) doesn't have kids. but his children arent lol i tried so hard to be accepted by them .. and i dont really care anymore .husband is a great father .. but i always have to compromise and be understanding that im not the only one in his life ... It really helps that it's anonymous because I got comments from friends that they would not say to my face. He gets his children every other weekend and on those weekends, I don't see him nor am I invited to do things with them.