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01-Oct-2020 17:51

After a lecture I gave at a university in India in the 1990's, two professors asked me to evaluate the curriculum vitae of an Indian psychologist with a recent American Ph D.

I assumed they were considering him for a position in their department. It turned out that the professors were married to each other, the other man was planning on staying in the United States, and they were trying to decide whether to arrange for their daughter to marry him.

I have to say that it isn't just young immature people that can't make wise decisions, there's a lot of old immature people or people that are not smart enough to know who is a good partner or not.

Look at Sandra Bullock; a successful woman who I thought was smart, chose to marry a guy like Jesse James with his history of bad choices with women (one a porn star) and has kids with two different women.

I gave the Indian professors a candid appraisal of their prospective son-in-law's academic credentials.

Different strokes for different folks.(I also wrote a follow-up piece on Arranged Marriage and Intermarriage.

In fact, I have an unpublished paper on arranged marriage from the viewpoint of institutional economics, which argues that arranged marriage persists in many cultures due to information asymmetries relevant to the goals of marriage in a particular culture.

One surprising thing is that even in the more Westernized, urban areas in India (for example), as well as young, educated Indians living in the US and UK, largely adhere to the arranged marriage tradition.

Even after being immersed in the "love marriage" culture of the west, young Indians still recognize their own weaknesses in picking a mate, and voluntarily leave the decision up to family elders (and "marriage brokers").

Looking at the divorce rate in this country and teen pregnancy is it surprising how many kids don't grow up with both their biological parents.

People want to get married for love, but most people don't know what love is.

In addition, in the West one chooses a partner to fulfill oneself, while in non-Western collectivist cultures, one's primary responsibility is to the group-to one's parents, kin group, ancestors, and others--all of whom have contributed to make one's current life possible and to whom one is obligated.