Arranged mariages and internet dating
The most dramatic aspect of this asymmetrical relationship is the giving of dowry.[Source: Library of Congress *] The wedding is regarded as the beginning of a relationship rather than the culmination of one.It is estimated that 80 percent of all marriages in South Asia are arranged by the bride and groom's parents.
Further, if a woman is sexually linked with a man of lower caste status, the woman is regarded as being irremediably polluted, "like an earthen pot." A male so sullied can be cleansed of his temporary pollution, "like a brass pot," with a ritual bath.I had an incredible feeling that this was the right thing to do." Explaining why she would entered an arranged marriage Indian-born, American-educated Shalmali Pal wrote in Newsweek, "In the end I'm just lazy. Why wouldn't I want their input in the most important decision in my life." One woman told The Times, “Marriage is a lottery, whether it is a love marriage or arranged.All you can do is get a ‘sense’ of what the person is like and a gut feeling for whether you want to give it a try or not.At the same time although love marriages are more common that they once were, young couples make sure their unions fall within the bounds of caste and religious propriety. " Same people see a good-looking but dark guy: "We don't want a black son in law".
For both males and females, free association with the opposite sex is limited, and dating in the Western sense is essentially limited to members of the educated urban elite. Casual sex is very rare, even in the hippest of crowds. Nayar wrote in the Encyclopedia of Sexuality: The marital bond involves a social sanction generally in the form of a civil or/and religious ceremony authorizing two persons of the opposite sex to engage in sexual relations and assume the consequent and correlated socioeconomic relationships and responsibilities society maintains for a married couple. 3) Girl gives a boy her class notes near canteen in college. Dad: "Who is that boy and why were you talking to him". 5) Many parents make their daughters study only because the girl will have better chances of getting a better husband.
I didn't think I would necessarily go through with it.