Their topic was communication, and healthy conflict resolution is a vital aspect of good communication.Like most good advice, these rules for fighting fair are provided in the form of a great acronym: .Check out our list of the top 20 things to look for in a Christian soulmate.
Fortunately, by adopting some simple rules for fair fighting, you really can allow cooler heads to prevail and resolve conflicts without causing long-term damage to your relationship.
My wife and I learned about these easy-to-remember-rules when they were presented by another (older and wiser) couple at a Pre-Cana marriage preparation course where we were instructing on a different subject.
If you are married or in a serious relationship, I bet it’s fair to say that you have had disagreements with your partner. It’s only natural that spouses that spend so much time together are going to have conflicts.
Whenever we do fight, it is critical that we use healthy conflict resolution skills and fight fair!
"Peacemakers are people who breathe grace," says Sande. Not all of us are called to teach a Bible study, sing in the choir, or work with youth, but all of us are called to "go and be reconciled" (Matt.
"They draw continually on the goodness and power of Jesus Christ, and then they bring his love, mercy, forgiveness, strength, and wisdom to the conflicts of daily life." Do you naturally "breathe grace? NIV) to our brothers and sisters, our friends and family, and the people in our churches and community.
Look into each others eyes as you discuss problems. Name-calling is like swearing, and it attacks your partner’s character.
This is particularly difficult for those who are used to guerrilla warfare – shouting some nasty comment, slamming down the phone or slamming a door – leaving no room for discussion because your partner is absent. Once name-calling enters the fight, your partner won’t hear anything you say, no matter how right you might be.
Money and sex tend to be the top two areas for marital strife.
Of the two, sexual problems usually have a more devastating impact that can rock a marriage to its core.
When managed biblically, conflict can serve as a catalyst for change and an opportunity for spiritual and relational growth.