This doesn’t mean that they’re not shallow (they are), but rather, that they are consistent and reasonable in terms of “rating” women’s looks.
Like in a normal bell curve, 5% of the women were found to be the least attractive and 5% were found to be the most attractive, with most women falling in the middle 90%.
Finally, you’ll see that since you can’t force people to write to you (since most men and women are chasing younger, more attractive people), ALL you can do is open up to others and improve the way you interact on your dating site. Looking at the pictures of their highly-rated and average males and females, I think I realized part of the problem.
I thought the employees were far better looking than their high quality users. Though I’d also be curious if they had more stratified data (like having people rate people who are similar in age or in the age range that the person is willing to date, or by race, education level, etc.).
That being said, I do think women have unrealistic expectations about men’s appearance.
How depressing for anyone planning to stroll up the aisle with a half decent bloke on their arm. How else did the likes of the balding author Salman Rushdie manage to ensnare the stunning model Padma Lakshmi or “lived in” singer Lyle Lovett get gorgeous actress Julia Roberts briefly down the aisle? And before long Roger was in my thoughts and in my bed. They have learnt to adapt their dating skills since they were the spotty-bespectled-fat-boy in the playground.
I have always wondered how sane, pretty women manage to kiss a man who looks like a pig. We think they will cheat on us as soon as our back is turned. Back in my early 30s, after my then Italian fiancé ran off with my best friend I felt unattractive and frumpy. Just like a blind man learns to develop his other senses, the ugly man relies less on his looks and heightens his other traits.
That was until I found out he was having sex with about five other women I knew.
As far as I am concerned, should you date an ugly man you do so at your peril.
Women are overlooking such fabulous men because of their hair follicles?
Then celebrate because, while it may not seem like it on the surface, you are going to have a much happier life than the hapless woman who snapped up the Adonis lookalike.
Men find most women reasonably attractive but spend their time writing only to the hottest ones. As for how this affects YOUR online dating experience?
• The average female sender gets a 30% reply rate from the most attractive males. Once again, proving that attractive women are at the top of the online dating totem pole. First of all, count your blessings that you UNDERSTAND this.
Yet for some reason we girls insist on believing that if he is a beast there is bound to be some kind of wonderful beauty lurking beneath his pockmarked face. Roger would stroke my hair and tell me I was the most beautiful woman he’d ever met.