"We all make mistakes." Nowhere is the cliché more apt than when it comes to relationships.
Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).
Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.
Wasting time - either in a relationship that's going nowhere or getting over a heartbreak - is one of the biggest and most common mistakes women make.
As Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo exhort the lovelorn in Quick Fix: Know what you want - and believe you deserve it.
A man may date and even marry a woman who approached him first, but there will likely be consequences later on..he approaches the girl he really wants. Quick Fix: If you talked him first or even asked him out, you can try to restore some of the feminine mystique and you forfeited as the initiator by being a bit more elusive - a little less available, a little more mysterious.
If he's truly smitten by you, he'll rise to the challenge and cherish you more.
You need to show (not tell) men that you're a busy woman, with lots of friends, deadlines, projects and prospects (including romantic ones).
When you accept so-called "spontaneous" invitations for the next day or even same evening, you send the message you've got nothing going on in your life - or nothing important, since you're willing to drop everything to accommodate him.
Let a man treat you like a fast food drive-thru (put his order in at the window then pull up to get his grub) and that's how he'll view you.
Fancy restaurants - and fancy girls - require reservations made well in advance. Quick Fix: To make sure you're his "Plan A" girl (not the "Plan B" girl he calls after his first choice turns him down), I recommend setting a firm cut-off limit after which you're "busy" - period.
If not, then let him float away now, before he wastes more of your time and ends up breaking your heart. Look approachable and friendly - that's all the encouragement your future (adoring) husband needs. You've just met the guy and you're telling him about the back-stabber in your office, the fight you had with your sister, the details of your recent root canal. During the first few dates, the man is still essentially a stranger.